When
Often we have to ask ourselves, does he/she de facto love me? Is he/she de facto in love with me? Am I in love with him/her? Do I de facto love him/her? These are questions of the heart and only you know the answer. However, there are indicators to help us understand the sass to our ask of being in love and knowing when man is in love with us.
Do It Yourself
When there is a question, there is de facto an answer. It may not be the sass we are seeing for, but there is an answer. The key to receiving the sass is being able to accept the truth. Sometimes we don't want to know the truth because it hurts. It hurts because we want things our way, just like we dreamed it up. Unfortunately, life cannot all the time be the dream that we want it to be. Sometimes, maybe most of the time for most of us, life is not the dream we want at all, not anyone close to it. It's important to understand that love does not love anyone, it just loves love. This is why it is so easy to fall in love and so difficult to stay in love. Love is! And that is it. The Bible says that there is no greater love than this, than a man lay down his life for his friend (John episode 15 verse 13). If this is an indicator of man being in love then we must be able to sass the question: "Would I die for him/her?" and "would he/she die for me?"
Often in relationships habitancy neglect to embrace the truth of who they are and therefore cannot understand themselves adequate to sass questions of love. For example, I have often asked this ask of man whom I was very interested in, "What did you not know about the man you just broke up with that you learned later in the relationship?" If a man is de facto careful about this, they would say exactly what they learned down the road that they did not know in the beginning of the relationship. Often it is these things we find out later about a man that makes us convert our mind about being with them. The response I typically get is, "I cannot sass that question." Or "I have to think about that?" This indicates that there is nothing that they did not know from the beginning. The next ask I typically ask is even more arresting and to the point, "Did you pay attentiveness to what you knew about the man or did you think you could convert them or they would convert later on in the relationship?" The sass for this one is always, "I just thought things would change." The point here is if you are honest with yourself and the man you are interested in, and truly pay attentiveness to who you are and what you are about, you would not allow yourself to get into relationships where you had to convert something about man or wait for them to convert something about themselves. This goes to that old cliché "Be true to yourself." This is not to say that habitancy don't change, rather the convert should be for the better, not the worse.
You see, answering the above questions de facto will give you power to embrace the truth about you. When you know the truth about you, it will allow you to deal with others with more honesty and truth as well. Now here is the touchy part, can you ask this ask of man you are in love with and accept their answer? When you make up your mind that you are in love with someone, does that mean that they must be in love with you? If so, then you are not de facto in love, you are in need of a hug. You cannot force anyone to be in love with you. This is what makes many marriages fail, habitancy try to force each other to be in love and it ends up destroying the relationship. Being in love is something that must be voluntary. Some of the books on the field of relationships and seeing man to fall in love with and have them fall in love with you are nothing more than a cookbook for a bad relationship. The famed game of love is just that, a game. You should take note, that as in all games, there are winners and losers. However, you should also know that "Love" is not a game, it is a life style and you need to be able to commit to that life style like a religion, with your mate, and like wise your mate must be able to commit to you in the same way.
How
There is nothing more to knowing if that man or that woman is in love with you or if you are in love with them. There is no secret, there is no game, there is only the truth. The truth is being willing to die for that man and that man being willing to die for you. In a since that is what marriage is all about: "Two habitancy dying as individuals and becoming a new man together. Working together, pulling together, pushing together and being in love together for ever."
Now the term "die" does not mean that you will de facto go straight through with it at some point and end your life. God willing both of you will live a long time and be happy together. However, it does mean that when it comes to satisfying each other and production each other happy that you would put your inhibitions aside (kill your fears and worries) and do what is essential to make your mate happy and like wise your mate must be able to do the same for you. If there is no reciprocity, then there is no love. Reciprocity does not mean a quid pro quo. In other words, never get into a situation where you only will do what your mate will do for you. This is not love. Sometimes you will give more then your mate and other times your mate will give more than you. This is how it will all the time be. There is no such thing as 50/50 love. Forget that Teddy Pendergrass song from back in the day, it only sounds good. When you find yourself giving more than your mate, just remember, this is the man you are in love with and this man is in love with you. The Bible says that "charity covers a multitude of sins" (I Peter episode 4 Verse 8 Kjv). The definition of "charity" is: lenient judgment of others. You must be willing and able to have lenient judgment of the man you are in love with. Be willing to grow with your mate straight through communication when mistakes are made. This is an on going thing, it never ends as long as you both live.
Why
The Bible explains the most thing is charity: "And now abide faith, hope, charity, these three; but the most of these is charity (I Corinthians episode 13 verse 13 Kjv)." It also says "And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could take off mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing. (I Corinthians episode 13 verse 2 Kjv)" When you think what charity brings to a relationship, if you cannot show charity between each other, but all things else is simply wonderful, your association de facto is nothing.
Last, but not least, a clear indicator of man being in love with you is when they can keep other habitancy out of your personal association with them. Your friends and family may mean well, but you are not in love with them and they apparently cannot be in love with you like your mate. Otherwise, why do you even need to be with your mate? Keep your friends and family, but keep them out of your association when it comes to production yourself and your mate happy. A good Bible scripture for this is Mathew episode 6 verses 3 and 4: "But when you do a charitable deed, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, that your charitable deed may be in secret; and your Father who sees in inexpressive will Himself bonus you openly."
Everyone does not need to be a mentor or advisor in your association with your mate. Learn how to keep most intimate things between you and your mate to yourself. I am not talking about abusive things, just personal things that should only be between you two.
You can tell when man is in love with you when they are willing to consistently show charity and demonstrate unselfishness toward you and your needs. This does not mean that you should take kindness for weakness. This would be a big mistake. Often habitancy show charity and love for their mate, but the mate takes it for granted and begins simply ignoring the truth of true love. Love just loves love and if love does not receive love back, then it will soon find other love. This again is a form of being able to die for them and they should reciprocate willing to die for you (die in the sense of putting there own selfishness aside to make you happy and you being able to do the same for them) with cheerfulness.
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